Saturday, September 25, 2010

Change is inevitable - The Cause & Effect

Every man needs to change so many times in his life, realized that change is the effect of all the moments (cause) in life. I am not the same self that I used to be, I have evolved so much after going through so many lessons every moment. I learned with every mistake I did or seeing / watching someone do a mistake, anything from standing in a queue to holding the spoon and fork at the table. There is no such thing as correct or incorrect way of doing something, like holding the spoon but the outcome is always better if we did it in a particular way. Holding a spoon would be the least thing that we need to learn when we are taking life as a context.

The toughest of all is to realize that even when you are changing to be a better person, the moment where we did the mistake and realized it will leave a scar and that, we will never get back the same moment with the same environment in life again. However you put it, that moment is gone. Sometimes we term it as second chance, but its not. Our second chances are new moments at a different time and surroundings and cannot be measured / compared to our first chance.

Now speaking about relationships, from one night stands to long term - its we who either make it complicated / corrupted / smooth. Its all up there in our brain, to adjust - adapt and provide several chances to change. HE made us imperfect, only because we need to learn and pave way to change and no one can expect to be perfect even after the change. And I am not terming a one hour / day divorce cases as a relationship :)

If I were given a chance to replay all the chess moves in my life, I would not be able to do it and the outcome may be disastrous. But if I were given a chance to make a different move only to specific moments in my life, yes that would make a big difference and the outcome would be so perfect. The sad thing is we all have only one chance, either we make it or break it and time still ticks on and waits for no man.

Take your best shot always. Try, Learn & Change and its repetitive. Goes like the chorus in any song and goes on for a lifetime.

14 comments:

aishrulez said...

its not about giving yourself another chance its about the other person also realizing that something went wrong and giving you another chance!

we are all humans and we all err, it is the process of growing up. But in a relationship the other person should accept it and take you as you are!

this is truly my opinion :)

Ashraf said...

macha next movie i have a superb idea ... and the narration is already written by you ... so get ready for another role ....

Kjo said...

@Aishrulez: Thanks for the read and your thoughts. Yes, I completely go with your statement 'other people realizing that something went wrong' but is that in our hands? there is no surety on that, its there mind and its there thoughts.

One more thing, this post is totally on ones self and its not related to the second or third person perspectives. You have really made me think more with that comment :) thanks (:

@Ashraf: will be waiting for the call sheet :p

lima said...

Nicely articulated Kiran !

kvtripathi said...

Very well written bro... :-)
Every word of the note is "True" :-)

"Therz no 2nd chance..."

Kjo said...

@lima - Thanks for the read and comment :)

@kvtripathi - Thanks brother for the read and the compliment. :)

சங்கரன் said...

JK, nice article. It remembers a saying," we may get many chances but we never get the chance second time".

Dear Legolas said...

hi bro. read your blog after a long time! actually i could relate most of your writing with my own life.

esp, i like the last sentence. it's something i believe everybody wishes for. And as for the chance, change are considered, a strong What the Heck attitude goes a long way. it's like, come what may, i'll keep playing...

Kjo said...

@சங்கரன்: Thanks brother for the read. Whoah the quote you mentioned there suites this topic entirely :p thanks for the comment. :)

@Dear Legolas: Thanks for the read, this one not only relates to your own life but to everyone else' also. Thanks for the compliment.

Vimal said...

Well said Bro
Life is all about seeking....if everything was constant, what is the CAUSE of our existence??

chances, choices, probabilities keep changing as time changes,it gives us chances,choices and probabilities for the changed time's and these keep changing..giving us opportunities - Effect

Kjo said...

@Vimal: Bro thanks for the comment and adding up on my points. My main concentration of this post is that your first chances are always lost when you dont capitalize and those opportunities are never the same, even if we get a chance later. and yeah there are lots of opportunities, chances, choices, possibilities & probabilities.

chris said...

Hi machi, two things

>> I feel that the mistakes we do, unknowingly, stick to our minds more than the learnings and are the ones which trigger us to apply what we learnt through the course of future

>> I would disagree with the opinion, 'HE made us imperfect', of yours. If we were made in a perfect way, who knows, we might have complained for not letting us to explore and learn things ourselves

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Kjo said...

@Chris: Thanks for the comment, nice to hear from you. :) I did not get your point on the 'HE made us imperfect'.

What I meant was that, HE has made us imperfect (not perfect) so that we could learn from so many things and try to be a better person every other day. :) and no one can ever be perfect but can always try to be a better person.